Showing posts with label Hope for the New Year. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Hope for the New Year. Show all posts

January 25, 2013

When You {feel like you} Don't Measure Up

This is a post I wrote in June of 2012 during our 7 Days of Hope series based on Hope for the Weary Mom specifically for the third chapter: When You Don't Measure Up. I'd love for you to join me and the amazing community of moms who are blessing me and each other every single day. God is doing some pretty incredible things through this book club. Will you join us?

I find myself comparing my life, my season and yes, even my faith (or lack of it, at times) to others. Often. Why do we do this? It's never helpful. Always destructive. And completely unproductive. And yet, we still do it.

Sadly, I've even caught myself comparing my boys to other boys.

When I am shopping with my crew of boys and I just know that they can be heard at the other end of the store, I shudder. My 2 year old won't sit nicely in the cart so I take him out and he's literally destroying entire sections of the store while my middle two are fighting and my oldest just wants to hurry up and go home....I panic and look around to see who is watching. Who sees this display of "bad mothering" unfolding before their very eyes?

I see a mom stroll by with her three very patient and quiet children, one of whom is sitting happily in the cart singing sweetly. Why are my boys behaving so badly and hers are, along for the ride. I don't understand. I'm desperate and just know that everyone in the store is looking my way. Of course, this is where my thoughts go....I'm worried that there's some sign hanging above my head that reads..."Step right up folks...Bad Mom Right Here: attempting to get a hold of her boys, but has no clue in the world how to."

Or, I look around my house and am overwhelmed at the incredible sea of dishes overflowing from my sink and spilling onto my counters. The laundry piles are everywhere. One such pile of unfolded clean laundry is so huge and is a fairly permanent fixture of rotating clothing, that my boys have named it Mt. Laundry. Why haven't I gotten a handle on all of this?

Recently, I was talking to another mom who was describing one of her friends in a very kind way as "...A super-woman kind of mom...her house is always clean, her kids are doing great in school, and she even works outside the home and is successful in her career."

Yes, I began entertaining thoughts of what my life looked like compared to what this other mom's life was like. If that is the definition of Super Mom, then I am a miserable failure.

But it's not. And I'm not. And neither are you. YOU are exactly the mom created for the exact children you have. I'm quite certain that what others see is not always the whole picture. Every once in a while my house will be clean and my boys' school work, nicely displayed on the walls, the boys are ALL having a good day together...and the doorbell rings. Perfect! Now someone will see how "good" I am. Finally, someone will witness this momentous occasion, where all appears perfect. But, this is just one moment in time, on one day and honestly....there's no perfection here.

Life is messy. And with kids, it's even messier! But aren't they amazing? We have to stop comparing our lives, ourselves, to others. That mom in the store, shopping with her kids who are all behaving well....she struggles in some way too. The mom whose house is clean and her kids are excelling in school...she's exhausted and in need of a break. And that sweet mom, going about her day, loving her children, trying to keep up with the endless chores, planning meals, trying to find a moment alone with God, desperate for something to go right in her day....she's weary.

No matter how old our children are or what season of life we're in with them, we cannot compare ourselves (or our children) with others.
"When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise."  -2 Corinthians 10:12b

Weary moms...our self worth, our confidence, our security, our satisfaction and our HOPE are all found in one the One who created us and loves us more than we can comprehend. If we know Jesus and He lives in our hearts, then our identities are in Him. We are worth a lot to God and that is what matters.

Satan wants more than anything to make us feel less than, not enough and inadequate. He revels in our entertaining ideas of what a "perfect life" looks like. What ever circumstance we are in right now...wherever we are in the thick of raising our sons, we can know that our God is for us. Our strength comes when we recognize our own weaknesses. For me, it's a general feeling of defeat. An "I can't" sort of attitude. When I pour this out to God and come to the end of myself, He is so good to give me grace and an extra helping of overflowing love that always completely transforms and renews my heart and mind.

 "So do not fear, for I am with you;
    do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." -Isaiah 41:10

 Linking up with Hope for the Weary Mom today. Will you join us for our book club?

January 8, 2013

In awe of God and all the weary moms {at

It's only Tuesday, the second day of our Hope for the New Year book club and I'm having trouble coming up with the words to describe my amazement of what God is already doing through this study. Moms are sharing the very core of their raw emotions and broken selves with one another. These are women of God, sisters in Christ. They come from all corners of the world, in all different kinds of seasons of life and walking through circumstances of kinds. There is no judgement...only grace and acceptance and love from each precious one there and for one another. It's truly remarkable.

I had no idea how big this was going to be. How deeply this study of Hope for the Weary Mom: Where God Meets You In Your Mess by authors, Brooke McGlothlin and Stacey Thacker, would penetrate my heart. The book itself, the words spilled onto each page, inspired by God and written by two moms desperate for Jesus to meet them right where they are....THAT alone blew me away and spoke deeply to my heart.

But now, spending time reading and conversing with a community of moms walking through motherhood, through life, feeling in their hearts the same way I feel most days...THIS, I really have no words adequate enough to describe how blessed and thankful I am for each woman there willing to lay it all out on the table, to be real and speak the truth of their inner most parts. It's truly blessing me beyond words.

If you are a mom that could use some understanding and grace, some fellowship and some encouraging HOPE, will you please join me, Brooke and Stacey along with hundreds of other moms just like you and me over at Hope for the Weary Mom? You won't regret it. We started our study Monday (January 7th), so it would be really easy to jump right in and be blessed.

Here is the announcement of the Book Club where you can learn all the details and sign up. And here is the first post from Monday with Stacey's video message to you along with some amazing conversation going in the comments area.

We'd love for you to join us and find Hope for the New Year!

December 11, 2012

Hope for the New Year {book club}

Moms, are you tired? A little worn out? Maybe REALLY worn out? I know I am most of the time. But we don't have to be defeated. In fact, I have been waiting with great anticipation for today so I could tell you about a Book Club I will be hosting over at Hope for the Weary Mom beginning January 7, 2013. 

When Brooke McGlothlin and Stacey Thacker, the authors of the book, Hope for the Weary Mom: When God Meets You in your Mess, asked me if I would like to host this book club....I can't even begin to tell you how excited I was. The first edition of their book blessed me so much and the "7 Days of Hope" study that followed life changing. And then God spoke even more truth through these two women for even more HOPE and a new expanded edition of their book was released in October.

And now....God still has more. I am humbled and so thankful to get to be a part of Hope for the New Year. If you are struggling in any area of motherhood or there are days where life just feels overwhelming, join us for ten weeks of Hope that will fill your weary soul. I just know God has amazing things in store for all of us. He's been involved in all of this from the very beginning, so I am praying that if you are in need of some real encouragement from some very real moms....I hope you'll join us over at Hope for the Weary Mom and sign up for our Book Club. What a great way to start the new year...

Will you join us for Hope for the New Year? 

Preview of what will happen each week during our Book Club: 
{AKA: Tons of encouragement all week long!!}

Mondays:  Brooke and Stacey will share their hearts (via video) about Hope as they answer some of the book’s questions  and offer words of real encouragement. You won’t want to miss this.

Wednesdays: I will pour my heart out as I reflect on my own weariness and the Hope I find in Christ.

Fridays: Guest Post Day and a link up! If you’ve already read the book and a particular chapter spoke deeply to your heart, we’d love for you to submit a guest post. (700 words or less in HTML format or Word Doc. Include a pinable photo for your post, along with a short bio and photo of you.)  Please send your submissions to by January 7th. Along with our guest posts each Friday, we’ll have an opportunity for you to link up your posts on Hope as well.

Linking up with:
Growing Home, Lowercase Letters, Hip Homeschool Moms, Time Warp Wife, Cornerstone ConfessionsThe Alabaster Jar, The Better Mom
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